Absolutely not! It’s all up to you. Never be forced into anything you do not feel comfortable with. You have to do what makes you happy as a person. Make a mature choice.
No, of course not! You are free to experience your own erotic adventure without getting other people into it. Most of our members come to the Lara’s Soirée private parties to experience and engage with couples who enjoy similar interests.
We cater for up market, classy clientele- corporate execs, lawyers, doctors and psychologists, as well as the ordinary Joe who has good taste and values, are all regulars at our parties.
Not necessarily in the traditional sense, however, you should keep your figure healthy, be well groomed and practice good hygiene. Please see the article under the Lifestyle tab on the basics of grooming.
Not under any circumstance!!!!
If you violate this rule you will be expelled from the premises immediately and your membership will be revoked.
This will happen in a very relaxed and natural way. Whether it is at the bar or in one of our erotic rooms. Almost all couples who visit our club are here to meet couples who think alike.
Rule of thumb: women may approach anyone- single man or couple. There should still always be a level of respect, make sure his partner is aware of you and comfortable with you.
Man in a couple: preferably do not approach the ladies sexually, allow your partner to do this. If you know your partner enjoys the company of a single man, you should feel comfortable to approach the single man and invite him to join you and your lady.
Single men: this has become a very big desire in many couple’s fantasies, single men at our parties have already been verified by Lara personally. It’s up to the couples to make these gents feel welcomed and comfortable at our events, as they already understand the rules well.
If you are a single man: always dress smart and take care of your hygiene and appearance, appreciate that it is a massive privilege to be invited to a Lara Soiree’ party as a single gent. Respect is the golden rule and no always means no, no matter how horny you may get. You may chat to couples but should wait for them to initiate the sexual approach. If you are invited to play with a couple, when you are done remember not to fall in love, this isn’t your partner. Don’t cuddle up, thank them for the experience and return to the bar area.
A lot of women who visit our club feel attracted to other women.
When the feeling is mutual it might end up in an exciting erotic experience. Just do whatever you want!
In all our erotic rooms, there are top quality condoms for free. The use of the condoms is a choice you make for yourself, but it is always recommended!
Area, theme and price are included in the invitation. Should you wish to attend, an upfront payment secures you booking. Once you have paid, you will receive the secret venue address a day before the party
For every venue we will make special arrangements to ensure that parking is available.
The probability is quite low, but if you are particularly concerned then keep your mask on. But if it still happens just bear in mind that they also meet someone they know! You’re all in the same boat. Friendly greeting and some humour will help to break the ice. Such a little secret creates a special connection.
So that we can verify that you are who you say you are. We will recognise you from the photo you have sent. We don’t take any walk ins or plus ones that you haven’t requested permission for before the time. Proof of payment and your names and surname is confirmation for a party.
Absolutely not! Being a member of the site gives you the right to meet other like minded people. The site allows you to create a profile where you can be contacted by other members of the site. Some of the members on the site do not necessarily visit the parties. Bad language and behaviour on our site will not be tolerated.
To be invited to our parties, you will be judged by your good behaviour, respect for others and our property. Please respect the rules at all times. Please refer to the “website membership” tab.
In other words, there’s a feeling of increasing excitement, building up to a point where everything ‘blows’ in a great blast of ecstasy. This ‘orgasmic moment’ is characterised by surges of contractions in the sex organs, occurring almost every 0.8 seconds.
Men are well aware that these throbs of pleasure are accompanied by the pumping out of spurts of seminal fluid. Obviously this doesn’t happen in women.
A few females do produce some fluid at orgasm, but the impression given in so many erotic stories that most women ‘ejaculate’ is not correct. Only a minority of females do this.
AC/DC – An individual who is bi-sexual.
B & D – Bondage and Discipline.
BDSM – Bondage, discipline, sadomasochism
Back Door – Slang for anal sex.
Bondage – Sexually aroused by being restrained or the subject of corrective treatment. (B&D)
Discipline – Disciplinary actions, which arouse sexual desires, ranging from mild spankings to painful beatings. (B&D)
DP – Double Penetration
Exhibitionism – Sexual need to show the private parts of the body to others.
Fetish – Sexual arousal through the use of objects or devotion to parts of the body, such as feet, fingers, leather, etc.
French – Oral sex.
Greek – Anal intercourse
Hedonist – One who lives only for pleasure.
Off Premise – These are events in which sexual activity is not allowed at the party. If members wish to get together then they leave and go to a hotel room, home, or where ever.
On Premise – These events are usually house parties or private clubs. Sex is allowed in designated areas, such as bedrooms. There are usually safe rooms where sex is not allowed.
Parties – Group swinging with more than one couple. Not to be confused with orgies. Private rooms may be used, but all are under one roof.
Roman – Orgies. Unrestrained multiple sexual activities in one room.
Safe – Male with vasectomy or female with hysterectomy or tubal ligation. (Unable to become pregnant or to impregnate.)
Social – An organized get-acquainted area of neutral ground, such as a restaurant, or dance. Sometimes followed by a party.
Soft Swing – Where two couples will agree to watch each other during sexual relations.
Swapping – The exchanging of mates by two couples.
Swinger – One, as part of a couple, who engages in recreational sex.
Swinging – Where two or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in intimate, sexual relations with a partner or partners other than their own.
Voyeurism – Observing others engaged in sexual activities, in the act of undressing, or sexual exhibitions. The view of an Exhibitionist.
Water Sports – urination for sexual stimulation.
If you spend time engaging in pre-play, you’ll pave the way for more pleasure than ever. “When a man is turned on before sex in the right way, it not only feels good, but his body is also more receptive and his orgasm more intense,” says sex expert Gloria Brame, PhD. Here, five foreplay-for-him manoeuvres that’ll tantalize your guy.
PRE-SEX MOVE 1: Let Him View Your Bod
You…naked. It’s already the hottest gift for your guy. Let him really soak up the sight and he’ll sizzle to an even higher temperature. “Men’s brain chemistry changes when they’re presented with a sexy image,” says Brame, “so flaunting your body will make his desire climb.”
To give him a view to a thrill, crib these peep-show pointers. Push him down on the bed and straddle him. Then, while he’s defenceless, very leisurely peel off one piece of your clothing at a time. To really titillate him, let him sneak a peek at the good stuff — your breasts, butt, inner thighs — but then cover up again. When you finally get down to removing your panties, do it painfully slow so he feels the burn. “Once you’re naked, tease him by twisting your body over him in different directions, arching your back, and letting your breasts graze his face and chest,” says sex expert Ava Cadell, PhD. He’ll be absolutely aching for your touch by the time you finally press your body against his.
Take it from Kyle,* 22. “My girlfriend stripped and sat me down in front of a big mirror. Then she said ‘Hands off’ and began to undress me,” he recalls. “Watching her — but not being able to have her—was torture… in a good way.” Let him look, but don’t let him touch. That anticipation is a powerful tool.
PRE-SEX MOVE 2: Use Your Breath
Relax, you can leave the tantric breathing to Sting. But there’s something to be said for using your mouth to work up your man. Start by letting your parted lips linger somewhere on his body, like his stomach or chest, then slowly exhale. “The rush of hot air will create a temperature change in his skin and heighten arousal,” says Cadell.
“My girlfriend does this thing where she takes a long, wet lick up my neck, followed by a warm breath,” says Christopher, 29. “Or sometimes she’ll go really fast, alternating between licking and cool blowing on my nipples. It’s like a stimulation bonanza.”
Now, a couple of heated rounds like this and your guy’s going to want to go for the gusto. So to reel him back: Work your way south to his package, pucker up, and blast a circle of cool air around his penis, as if you were putting out the candles on a cake. “Breathing cool air on a hot region will actually make his arousal last longer.
Some males are jealous that females have a “G Spot” that, when stimulated, results in a high level of sexual excitement and a geyser of fluid called female ejaculate or orgasmic expulsion. Males have an “A SPOT”.
It involves stimulating the prostate gland via the rectum. This is done by manual stimulation or gentle use of a dildo or vibrator. The operative word here is “gentle” – the prostate is very sensitive and any rough stuff can be very painful, possibly dangerous. Any way you choose to do it, here are the basics:
Put a condom over your index and middle finger; lubricate them well; touch around the rectum till it is relaxed enough to allow easy insertion of one then two fingers. About 2 inches up the rectum you will feel another sphincter, (ring of muscles). It may take a minute or so for these muscles to relax, then, when your fingers can go up about 3-4 inches, you gently stroke and you will feel his prostate. It is firmer than surrounding organs – feels about the size of a walnut and is very sensitive. Then you crook these two fingers towards his abdomen and gently stroke.
Communication is important here. He needs to tell you if it feels good or if it is uncomfortable, even painful. At the same time, you may be performing manual or oral stimulation on his penis and genitals. In all probability, this will result in a very satisfying ejaculation and orgasm.
Anal sex, bum sex, sex by the back door, the Greek or Italian way, fudge-packing and sodomy – these are some of the terms used to describe anal sex. It involves anal penetration of the anus (or rectum) by an erect penis or even a vibrator, dildo or “butt plug.”
Previously regarded as sexual activity primarily practised by male homosexuals, it now appears to be a fairly common, even acceptable, alternative to vaginal intercourse amongst heterosexuals. The most common questions we get on the show relate to anal intercourse – how to do it, is it dangerous, does it hurt, why do people want to do it, is it pleasurable for the female, and how do I talk my partner into trying it?
This is a very controversial and a very sensitive, even taboo, topic amongst many mature people, and I would not want to offend, but anal sex is also high risk behavior and we have an obligation to provide accurate information so younger people can make an informed decision.
First – anatomy. At the lower end of the bowel, there are two distinct circular bands of muscles, sphincters, one is located about an 1 ½” above the other. These clamp down tight to prevent the passage of feces or gas. The mucous membrane lining of the rectum is not as heavy as the lining of the vagina, so it can tear quite easily and it does not heal as quickly as the vagina. Because feces, loaded with bacteria, are passing by, any tear is vulnerable to infection.
The vigorous thrusting that may occur during anal intercourse can tear the mucous membrane. This can develop into an anal abscess that can become infected – more about that in a moment. Also, if your partner has any of the sexually transmitted infections (STI’s), then you could get infected through the tear. So we are talking about gonorrhea (treatable); venereal warts (treatable if external, difficult if up in the rectum); syphilis (treatable); herpes (treatment, no cure); yeast infection (treatable); and HIV and AIDS (treatment but no cure.) You do not want any of these STI’s. Preferably, you’re in a long-term, committed relationship, infection free, and practising SAFER SEX.
But wait, there’s more bad news. A “fissure” is a tear up in the rectum can develop into a crack, and become infected. It can gradually extend out through the wall of the bowel and form a channel across, through and into a nearby organ. That’s called a “fistula”, and it would allow feces to flow from the rectum into the vagina and out.
Repairing tears, fissures and fistulas is delicate surgery and recovery can be long and painful. Some doctors will tell you that hemorrhoids (piles) could result from vigorous anal sex, and although I have no medical research, I have heard people say that the rectum “gets sloppy”, stretched. I am dubious – if this was true, why doesn’t it get sloppy with regular bowel movements? With no definitive research, you do the math.
The best prevention is “don’t go there”. But if you do decide to try it, you and your partner must talk about it beforehand and agree on these points:
- Your partner must be very, very gentle, absolutely no forced penetration and no vigorous thrusting.
- You must use lots and lots of good lubrication, (anal lube, not saliva).
- Your partner must use a condom…all the time, every time.
- Your partner must respect “stop”. If you say ouch, or it hurts, or No or quit… they must stop immediately.
- It must be understood, if you do not want to have anal sex again, there will be no pressure, no threats and no pleading. NO means NO.
- Use a well-lubricated condom without spermicide, either on the sex toy or his penis. Spermicide can irritate the rectum.
- Never shift from anal sex back to vaginal sex without changing condoms. Feces can end up in the vagina and cause infections. And please wash your hands with soap and water after handling the dirty condom or you could still spread infectious material.
There are some who really enjoy giving and receiving anal pleasure; some females feel that they have their best orgasms ever; some females oblige simply because their partner really enjoys anal sex; and for other females, it is just gross, embarrassing or disgusting.
For men who have sex with men, it can be very satisfying sex.
As to why the sudden increase in anal sexual activity, again, I have no studies but I suspect anal sex is the last taboo. Females believe that they won’t get pregnant with anal sex. This is true, UNLESS ejaculate flows down over her genitals. Young females believe they are still a virgin if they have bum sex. Basically, this is true, but it is semantics. How much is “if you really loved me, you’d prove your love by doing this?” And how much is proof of power and control, dominant v.s. submissive. And of course, some of it is just good, old curiosity. “Try it, you’ll like it.”
I get very upset when guys ask, “How can I talk my girlfriend into having anal sex?” My reply: “I hope you can’t.” Absolutely no coercion, promises, manipulation or threats. It must be mutual with a definite understanding of the “bottom line.”
As I write this, I realize that some people will be very offended by the whole topic, but knowledge is a survival skill for the new century and I want people to follow the old Planned Parenthood motto; “Know what you are doing, think ahead, plan ahead, and never let sex just happen”.
Polyamory means “loving more than one”. This love may be sexual, emotional, spiritual, or any combination thereof, according to the desires and agreements of the individuals involved, but you needn’t wear yourself out trying to figure out ways to fit fondness for apple pie, or filial piety, or a passion for the Saint Paul Saints baseball club into it.
“Polyamorous” is also used as a descriptive term by people who are open to more than one relationship even if they are not currently involved in more than one. (Heck, some are involved in less than one.) Some people think the definition is a bit loose, but it’s got to be fairly roomy to fit the wide range of poly arrangements out there.
- Never attempt to break up a marriage.
- Always keep dates unless you give ample notice of changing circumstances.
- Always keep the first meeting on a “no strings attached” basis, but be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreeable or to give an honest answer if something doesn’t click.
- Never, under any circumstances exert pressure on a partner to swing.
- Restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested persons seeking information.
- Protect the anonymity of other swingers by refraining from unauthorized “name dropping.”
- Always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.
- Do not engage in any unlawful activity that would discredit swingers as a group.
- Be friendly and warm with your swing partners, but understand that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or “primary significant other.”
- Always show respect for the personal attitudes, feelings and “hang-ups” of other swingers.
The use of so-called Party Drugs has become fairly common among young people with a noticeable increase in white-collar workers and executives. There are some things you should know about these drugs.
Many are made in small “laboratories” (bathtub chemists) with no quality controls so you never know what you are buying. Some are mixed with other drugs and that can cause complications if there is a negative reaction.
Some people use more than one drug at the same time, which can be dangerous if mixed with the wrong substances in the wrong amounts. Here is a list of the most common party drugs available:
ECTASY or MDMA, common street names are “E”, “XTC or “ADAM”. Produces euphoria, endless energy, lasts four to six hours, but can be accompanied by anxiety, nausea, blurred vision, depression, increased blood pressure and heart rate. Long-term use may damage specific brain cell, especially among women.
KETAMINE also called “Special K”, Vitamin K”. Users smoke or snort it for its hallucinogenic trance which can last from 30 minutes to 2 hours. It may produce loss of consciousness, seizures, reduced respirations, or coma. May require hospitalization.
METHAMPHETAMINE or “Crank”, “Crystal”, “Speed” or “Ice”. Very high energy may last 8-14 hours; results in aggression, violence, psychosis and long term nerve damage.
LSD. Street name is “acid” or “Microdot.” A colourless, tasteless liquid placed in drinks or dropped on a blotter and sucked. It may cause hallucinations, numbness, nausea, sweating, flashbacks or sleeplessness. It may cause permanent brain damage.
PHENCYCLIDINE street name is PCP, Angel dust, Hog, or Loveboat. This drug may cause delusions, paranoia; it kills brain cells or possibly results in suicide.
GHB. One of the date rape drugs called Easy Lay. Usually dropped into a drink, it can result in collapse, loss of consciousness, seizures, respiratory depression, or coma. A female may be powerless to resist assault and may have no memory of the attack.
ROHYPNOL, also caller “Roe or Rope, Roofies”, it is also a date rape drug, dropped in drinks; users feel relaxed and sociable, but it can result in incapacity, unconsciousness, coma, amnesia.
EPHEDRINE street name is “E” and it’s found in over the counter cold medications or inhalers but is used at three times maximum dose. It will produce a speed like effect for 3-4 hours. It increases heart rate and blood pressure.
MARIJUANA called “Mary Jane, MJ, Pot, Weed” is smoked and acts as a relaxant, problems disappear, sedation, blurred vision and dizziness.
Another drug which is used to increase male sexual arousal, POPPERS, also called “AMY” are Amyl Nitrite, an inhaled vasodilator. Poppers come in small crushable glass vials which are surrounded by mesh to protect the user from cutting themselves. The drug is inhaled just prior to sexual activity, resulting in a “rush”, full erection and a powerful sense of sexual urgency. The danger is the possibility of having a stroke because of the vasodilation. It is also known that males who used poppers were more vulnerable to HIV/AIDS infection.
PROTECT YOURSELF AND YOUR FRIENDS
If you are going to a bar, a social party Rave or other social event, always go with a good friend whom you trust.
Never go home with somebody you have just met, go home with your buddy. Go to the washroom with your buddy.
Never accept a drink from a stranger or casual friend, go to the bar with them or alone.
Never leave a drink and go out on the dance floor then come back to your drink. Somebody could have slipped a drug into your unattended drink. Get a fresh drink.
Never go out to the parking lot alone, to get a breath of fresh air, you are vulnerable to assault. Take your buddy.
Watch your buddy for unusual behavior, intervene and get them home safely. They will thank you.
If the friend passes out, do not assume that they have just drunk too much – get them to Emergency. If they are having difficulty breathing, call 911.